Desire Gap Navigator

Answer honestly. There are no “right” answers. You’re not being evaluated.

1) Which best describes your situation?
2) How long has this been going on?
3) When sex comes up, what do you feel first?
4) How safe does it feel to say “no” in your relationship?
5) How often does sex-talk turn into conflict or shutdown?
6) Which is closest to the blocker? (choose up to 2)

If you’re unsure, choose the closest match. You can leave the second one blank.

7) After sex, what’s most common?
8) Is there a known life shift in the last 18 months? (choose up to 2)

If you choose “None of these,” leave the second one blank.

9) What have you already tried? (choose up to 2)
10) What’s the fear underneath this?
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Note: This tool is not therapy and does not diagnose. If you’re in immediate danger or distress, seek urgent help.